"Poor palliative care"

My husband passed away some time ago now due to cancer. He was admitted to Ipswich Hospital because his cancer was spreading and causing more discomfort. I knew there was nothing that could be done for my husband, cancer-wise, so it was suggested a syringe driver be used to control his pain by his doctor.

I refused this form of pain management and so did my husband but the doctor assured us both that it was not the end of life care, and I believed him. A second doctor again assured me that my husband had at least months left to live. 

Within days of this syringe driver being used, my husband lost the use of his legs, his mind and became unconscious. One week later he passed away. Even some of the nursing staff who had gone off duty to return a day or two later could not believe the decline in my husband and suggested I look at 'Ryan’s Rule'.

I know my husband was poorly and there was no way back from his cancer but my best friend in life was taken from me by this syringe driving practice and you will never convince me that is not a form of legalized euthanasia or worse.

I do not know how these so-called doctors sleep at night with so much power in their hands to destroy lives. 

What has really hurt me the most in all this is my husband always had home visits from the palliative care team from Ipswich Hospital, namely the second doctor mentioned above. They knew my husband well because of those home visits. They have not once phoned to say how sorry they were about my husband's passing which I think is awful. The only one who did was a social worker at Ipswich Hospital. 

Of the nursing staff, most of them were wonderful except for one who seemed to want to talk about funeral arrangements and life after my husband while he was lying there able to hear the insensitive person talking.

My only peace in all this now is that my husband is at peace.