"Pregnancy bleeding"

I presented to SJOG Midland with heavy bleeding 18 weeks into my otherwise healthy pregnancy. I was also covid +ve. 

On presentation to the covid tent I was still bleeding through my clothes and was feeling light headed, I told the nurse I needed to sit down and that I was already covid positive. I recall they told me to sit on the floor if I couldn’t wait. Thankfully a lovely other nurse came to my assistance at that point to help. 

When I was taken through to ED I was placed in an adhoc room, I wasn’t shown the call bell or provided any information. A nurse presented about 30 minutes later to take my observations. I recall they then proceeded to stand outside the room and make shout through the door my reason for presenting; which could not have felt more undignified in light of the circumstance. I’ve suffered 3 previous traumatic miscarriages and I was emotionally struggling with the events of that day, I felt the nurses offered no compassion. My partner wasn’t allowed to be with me, despite the circumstance. I desperately needed to use the commode, I recall the nurse opened the door and pushed the commode in until it hit the wall, then they shut the door and left. I had to put the brakes on myself for safety. Likewise I asked for a pad for my bleeding and it seemed this was just thrown onto my bed. I felt as though I received truly substandard care just for being covid positive. I’m also vegetarian, and had been fasting for nearly 10 hours. I asked if I could eat and drink something to which the nurse placed a bottle of water and some crackers on the floor for me to retrieve. 

I was told I was going to the ward at a certain time and that my partner could bring me some clothes (I was still wearing my blood soaked underwear and I believe the nurse refused to meet my partner at the door to collect fresh clothes). Around 3 hours later, I was still waiting for an orderly to take me upstairs; I had been waiting for a commode chair for over an hour and subsequently ended up wetting myself. The most embarrassing and undignified experience of my life; with no apology from the nurse. 

I tried to escalate my concerns about my partner being able to visit, I am a clinician and I understand the requirement for restrictions however I cannot believe that given my history and nature of my presentation I was not allowed a support person. I laid on my bed and cried uncontrollably and being denied a support network when even the nurses wouldn’t enter the room to show me some compassion was dumbfounding to me. I had had an ultrasound scan which showed that my baby seemed okay, to which I recall the nurse told me that I don’t need my partner, my baby is fine it’s just bleeding, in my opinion shows a complete lack of empathy and understanding for my circumstance. I believe I’m sure the nurse wouldn’t have wanted to leave their partner alone in the same circumstance. 

I am unvaccinated to covid through no fault of my own and due to a pre existing medical condition however I believe the ED nurse took the opportunity to inform that ‘vaccination is the safest way to protect my baby from covid’ oh which I was well aware and I felt judged as an ‘anti vaxxer’ when that truly wasn’t the case. 

At the time of writing this, I wish I could transfer my maternity care elsewhere now, I have lost all faith in SJOG Midland and I couldn’t imagine giving birth in such an unsupportive environment.