"High BMI during pregnancy"

After talking to the midwife about how I had a little anxiety about the upcoming birth and not making it to hospital in time, I recall I was then told my bmi is too high to have my baby at Sale Hospital (so basically I'm too fat and the anxiety I spoke of was about the birth of this baby not about life, but I believe the midwife made out like I'd had it long term and started asking if I've spoken to someone or had treatment for it). I also had my last baby at that hospital and weighed about 16kgs more than what I do now (there was no problem with my pregnancy or labour I stayed in their bed for one night and went home the next day), being seemingly told you're too fat to have your baby here is just what a pregnant mum wants to hear...

I have limited money so can not afford the other obstetricians in the area and can not afford to travel 2 hours to see an obstetrician so it seems to me my pregnancy care right now is 0 even though I want to go for check-ups, the midwives won't even do the check-ups. if I book into the hospital that is an hour away and transfer the details of my pregnancy over to them, I'm now in a very stuck situation. Even when I explained that I could not afford to travel and my current timetable/schedule with work, school, kindergarten and getting older children to and from work doesn't allow for the time it would take over there and back. I felt I wasn't understood or helped, just told no.

I just want to feel safe and prepared but instead I'm nervous and feel worried, especially after being told by the midwife that as I understand it, I'm high risk because of my weight and amount of previous pregnancies (even though I've never had any trouble giving birth) then getting sent further away, I think wouldn't it then be a risk of giving birth in the car and having something terrible go wrong?

In my opinion, Sale Hospital needs to be equipped with beds for larger patients (if that's even the problem... like I said I was about 16kgs heavier with my previous birth there) having some midwives who aren't scared of dealing with a bigger woman or a woman who has a chance of haemorrhage I believe would also be a good idea. I feel it would be nice to be treated like a human instead of an inconvenience (and it seems there's a big difference when you're not overweight or don't have a health issue). I find it's sad that I've had such a negative experience and minimum care because of my weight.

Treatment

Being listened to