"Disempowerment of carer"

My disabled spouse, who also suffers Alzheimer’s, was admitted from ED recently to the ward. I presented the next morning to see my spouse, they were being attended by a nurse and an assistant in the bathroom.  I entered the room and was told I had to get out they were busy doing something.

Somewhat taken aback by this greeting I waited in the corridor.  Long story short, after 3 exhausting attempts with a Sara Stedy (which I know how to help my spouse with but was told no) my spouse was eventually transferred by hoist onto the bed. They were placed in a position with their heels close to their bottom. They were asked to sit up to enable the removal of the sling.

As you can imagine they are slow to process requests. They were also unable to comply with the sit up request with their knees in that position. I spoke to my spouse and gently lowered their ankles. The enrolled nurse seemed to get very abrupt/cross and told me to get out of the room as I was interfering and ruining their work. I refused to exit the room, Advising I needed all the knowledge I could regarding manual handling. I also pointed out that their request for my spouse to sit up Was not something they could possibly comply with while in that position.  In fact at all anyway.

I felt the nurse's demands to my spouse were rapid and brusque And while I know it can be frustrating, they could not possibly comply without being allowed a longer processing time.  I later spoke to the nurse, and was in tears.

They first said that well I'd been told by the physios not to touch my spouse, not quite accurate, however they apologised and said they didn’t mean to come across that way. I understand the enormous stresses that everyone is under, However we as spouses and experienced carers Can help with this.

I was advised by this nurse that I was forbidden to touch my spouse or assist them in anyway whilst they are in the hospital. What I believe is this completely harsh disempowerment For my spouse's care and well-being  psychologically, For both of us, was very distressing.