"Home care following hip surgery"

Prior to total hip replacement - first ever surgery - earlier this month, I was assured that I could have some assistance at home if I felt I needed it. I live on my own and despite my many beautiful friends who help me in many ways, I can’t expect them to help me at a moments notice. 

When I asked the surgical OT about getting home care , I recall they replied - ‘What for? What do you need it for?’  I told them I might need showering initially, housework and cleaning, cooking… They seemed to think I was doing so well, I wouldn’t need anyone, so I left it. 

Most days I’m ok, but I really could do with some assistance, reassurance for the first 2-3 weeks. Very disappointed in this aspect of my care but the rest - nurses, doctors etc I feel get 10/10 for compassion, kindness and support. I’m too bloody independent and now feel I shouldn’t have asked for home care, but I wish I’d persisted, as I’m not coping as well as I thought I would. Some days I feel quite anxious on my own. I believe this is not good enough. In my opinion, home care should be automatic, especially for patients living alone. I feel the service can always be reduced or terminated as the patient recovers.