My partner has been in and out of hospital (both Albany Regional as well as Fiona Stanley) frequently over the past 2 years with cancer.
As they acquired a secondary cancer due to primary cancer treatment, they initially refused further chemo, however was offered a different drug, to which they said they wanted some time to think about it.
Fast forward to our visit a few weeks ago: We had gone to ED in Albany Regional as my partner was in a lot of pain and had developed a fever. The junior oncologist came in and matter of factly said that as my partner didn't have a patient directive on file, they needed to know what my partner wanted done in case things went downhill. My partner said very clearly, that they wanted everything possible done to keep them alive, to which the doctor replied that that was noted, however it was unlikely that, for someone as seriously ill as my partner, they would actually try to save their life, as it wouldn't make much sense (or not be worth it?!).
I understand that maybe that is so, but the way it was delivered very much sounded like - well, bad luck, we are not even going to try to keep you alive.
That was the first time my jaw dropped. (My partner had said they had had problems with this junior oncologist before...). The doc then somehow got to saying that my partner didn't want any further treatment anyway, which my partner said wasn't true. My partner did want to try the other chemo drug, (as they had told the senior oncologist and various other nurses and doctors, but apparently it hadn't made it into the file) to which the junior doctor, we felt almost accusingly said "what, you *do* want more treatment now?!" and then proceeded to argue that my partner had said they didn't want treatment. The doctor then seemingly stormed out with the words that they were not going to argue ...
I was gobsmacked at what I felt were such atrocious bedside manners. I thought the doctors and nurses were there to help and do what they can to heal, not, in my experience, accuse you of asking for treatment to get better. I have to say we have found the other junior doctor much more gentle and helpful and the nurses, as always, doing the best they can.
"Oncology care"
About: Albany Health Campus / Emergency Department Albany Health Campus Emergency Department Albany 6330
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